Comfort levelWhether you meet the donor in person or never meet the donor, based on the available information you do have, it is relevant for most people to consider their ability to identify with the donor. Do you feel drawn to her? Does she somehow feel familiar? Do you like what she writes about herself, do her personality traits seem compatible with your own?
Physical ResemblanceMany recipients try to find the donor that is an exact physical match to what they look like. The truth is you can’t, although you can select a donor from a particular ethnic group, of a similar height, of similar complexion, or other isolated features in common. Keep in mind that physical resemblance is just one factor, and not necessarily genetic. A donor and her sister may not look at all alike, so you may not have a child that closely resembles the donor. Genetically speaking, there are many variables that are entirely unpredictable. Keep an open mind, and consider that you may be able to increase probabilities, but not certainties, when trying to find a donor that matches your family profile.
Medical AcceptanceYour physician will help you decide, based on his or her own criteria, what makes a donor more to suitable than another to provide the outcome you desire.
It is our firm belief, based on years of experience with couples who have had children with our egg donors, and World Egg Bank’s founder’s own experience having 3 children conceived with the help and generosity of an egg donor, that families are built upon relationship and bonding much more so than genetic traits. Once you are able to move beyond the grieving of the loss of your own genetic history, concerns about the origin of your child’s biological make-up become less important. However, it is important to understand this is a highly emotional decision, and objectively understand that the true potential to select a donor based on her physical and personal characteristics that are similar to your own, is not as clear and predictable as most commonly perceive.